Core Needs NLP

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I suppose many of you would realize by now that NLP is about modeling other successes. But what if there has never been an NLP model for your industry or area of study? Well, learning NLP has been about testing and measuring. It’s what we do best. Do A, and if you don’t get the [...]

Apr

29

Odd Experimentation

Category: Models of Thinking | 1 Comment

I suppose many of you reading this blog would know I’m a counselor and a trained psychotherapist. It’s odd, though, that many things that I’ve done as an NLP trainer, I could never have done as a therapist. In fact, I realized that many psychotherapeutic techniques tend to be very heavily “problem” oriented.
At the [...]

Apr

5

Values Valence: Why Do Values “Cluster”?

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You’ll realize something if you’ve been in the world of personal development. There is a ‘clustering’ of values. People have polarized their values set around things like “success” and “love”, etc. Yet, with such values, the other thing that tends to come together with “success” is “dissatisfaction”. “Love” is also often associated with clusters of [...]

Apr

21

Submodalities

Category: General NLP, Models of Thinking, Submodalities | 1 Comment

I’ve used submodalities for a long time, and found that whatever that has been covered in books and manuals have been severely limiting. I learnt from Richard Bandler that the development of submodalities was based on understanding how we shift states in different ways.
For instance, most books focus on the use of visual submodalities. Distance, [...]

Apr

11

Issues With The Milton Model

Category: General NLP, Milton Model, Models of Thinking, Physiology, Therapeutic Approaches | 2 Comments

I’ve been working with and using the Milton Model since 1995 during my practitioner training, and I’ve discovered that it takes a lot more than just the Milton Model to build a person’s skills in persuasion.
I realized a long time ago that the Milton Model was limited by Bandler’s ability to explain the totality of [...]

Mar

12

The Two Basic Things in Modeling

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According to Richard Bandler, in any basic skill of personal change you need to learn to (1) take things apart, and (2) put things together. The concept of synthesis and analysis. The concept of modeling and application. So… if let’s say you are about to start a project, you need to first analyze the needs, [...]

Mar

12

What Works?

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In NLP, the most important aspect of it is the ability to find out what really works. I mean, the crux of the whole subject is not about the values set, the beliefs or anything of that sort. If it works, it works. This also basically means that it has to work for you. You [...]

Mar

7

Why NLP Works

Category: General NLP, Models of Thinking, People In NLP | 2 Comments

I haveÂ had a few tussles with psychology professors who want to argue that NLP is invalid and “pop” psychology. I like the way they put it: “pop” psychology - it literally changes your submodalities. It’s like “pop” academia. Makes you wonder whether it’s credible. it’s worse when they use the word “just”. It’s “just” “pop” [...]

Feb

26

How To Develop Yourself To Your Optimum

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In my recent Patterns of Excellence Training, was posed the question as to what level of flexibility we ought to have in order to develop ourselves well. After all, doing whatever it takes and putting in 100% can be scary.
So I offered by suggestion - to Optimize ourselves. If you consider the elements of optimization, [...]